Stop yourself

I excitedly told a friend about the great deal I got on a pair of shoes and three dresses at a consignment shop. A moment later she said, "Unfortunately, I'm not in a position to buy anything right now." For a split second, I interpreted her comment as judgmental and felt defensive, and then I immediately recognized it, stopped myself and talked myself down. My inner dialogue went like this:

  • "She's not saying I shouldn't have spent the money."

  • "She's not saying I'm not worth it."

  • "She's not saying she's jealous of me."

  • "She's not saying anything about me whatsoever."

  • "She's talking about her own situation."

  • "This isn't about me at all."

By becoming more mindful of my thoughts and actions, I am better equipped than I used to be at stopping the downward spiral of over-analyzing conversations and automatically feeling guilty. It feels good.

If, like me, you tend to take things personally sometimes, stop yourself.

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